Top 5 Challenges When It Comes to Sex

When asked “What is one area about your sex life that you would like to change or improve?”, the following 5 themes were the most common, appearing in a whopping 93% of answers to our sex survey. Let’s dive in a little deeper, shall we?


Communication is an essential part of sex, but we know talking about sexual wellness can be complicated and intimidating. Of course, it’s crucial to feel comfortable communicating with a partner, but being able to have those conversations with friends, family, or a healthcare provider is important too. Your ability to comfortably discuss your sex life fosters intimacy, alleviates stress, and builds a sense of community.

“[I want] to feel more comfortable communicating my sexual desires and needs.”

Looking to get started now? Consider writing erotica with your partner as a way to get creative and develop a mutual sexual vocabulary while in quarantine.


Mentioned in 14% of responses

If you’re feeling insecure about sex – you aren’t alone.

With so much stigma surrounding women’s pleasure, it’s no wonder sexual confidence takes a hit. Whether you’re recovering from a trauma, starting a new relationship, or have always struggled with your sexual desires, there are ways to build confidence one step at a time. We’re loving this article on learning to love yourself no matter what stage you’re in. 

“[I want] to be more confident within my own body and skin. Since I’m not, I feel it gets in the way of really being in the moment.”


Mentioned in 18% of responses
Whether you are looking to orgasm more often, want to learn to orgasm during sex, or you have never orgasmed, we understand that reaching the big O is an integral part your sex life. 

“[I want] more consistent orgasms!”

It’s ok (and completely normal) if orgasming is something you struggle with. And while there are things you can do to change that, sometimes it’s helpful to remember that you can still enjoy pleasure without stressing about when or if you’re going to come. 


Mentioned in 20% of responses
Exploring new things is a great (and fun) way to discover your sexual preferences. The best part? This can be done with or without a partner. A lot of survey respondents want to find new techniques, products, or positions and we’re here to support your search! Our product quiz is a great way to learn more about some of the options available.

“I’m pretty vanilla in my sex life, so anything to spice it up a bit”

And the number one most mentioned area of improvement?


Mentioned in 27% of responses

We know, we know. People want to have more sex. This isn’t a radical idea. But have you ever wondered where our notions about how much sex we ‘should’ be having come from? Or how much sex is considered ‘normal’? (Spoiler alert: there is no ‘normal’ when it comes to sex). 

In the coming weeks we’re going to look at reasons beyond pleasure that explain why we’re all dying to have more sex. 

“I'd like to be having more sex without compromising my standards”


The bottom line? Whatever you’re looking to improve, you are not alone. And we’re here to help you get there.